Dating and the rest of life
If you ever need something from him, you’d better look somewhere else because while he expects to depend on you, you’ll never be able to depend on him. Nothing in life is just handed to you, but that’s what a lazy man expects. You’re self-sufficient and can fend for yourself, so do you really want a man who can’t do the same?You’ll do all the work and he’ll reap all the benefits — that’s just how he operates. He won’t just want to be with you, he’ll need you in his life—emotionally, physically, financially, and every which way in between. He’s not going to bring out the best in you because he can’t even bring out a decent version of himself.She enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.I am a relationship coach and I work with a lot of people who are doing the online dating thing with mixed results, and when I say mixed results, I mean many of them are frustrated. I am a fan of online dating because if not for Match.com, I wouldn't have met my husband.If you meet this kind of man, run, because if he doesn’t make any sort of effort in the rest of his life, there’s no way he’ll make an effort for you. Do you really think a lazy man will be willing to do that?He won’t be able to stick by your side through thick and thin because that takes real work.However, online dating got me more than my share of duds before I found my Mr. In fact, I had a profile up, on and off, for years before meeting my man.
Now when I was younger I was pretty good at dodgeball, but even and I have a limit on how long I can play.
I know that to have a successful relationship you need to be open to change.
Change is what allows a person to grow, it is a crucial and critical ingredient. Everytime something goes wrong in my relationship, I know that change has to occur (mostly that I have to change).
He’s simply too lazy to give a damn, and you’re too good for a man who doesn’t at least try to give you the love you deserve.
Kelsey Dykstra Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA.And I can offer some thoughts about that based on my personal experience and the experience of hundreds of clients I've watched swim in those waters.